Anybody is easy to kill, especially when an ambushing hunter does an excellent job in plotting his moves in hurting someone. No matter if we have guns, knives, pepper spray, or any other self-defense device in our hands, it will all be useless. If we get caught unaware and not seeing a threat, there is not much we can do. That is regardless if we have a pretty good high training of self-defense. With that, to become situationally aware and able to identify a crowd with a threat to it, we need to consider understanding human nature.
For most of us women, it is a fallacy to always think that we are ready. That is so bullshit because it can never happen. If we overthink on our safety, it becomes paranoia. It will become a state where we continuously think about people trying to hurt us even in public places. Readiness is something we only create in our minds to help us picture out the types of dangers out there. But in reality, we can never execute actions as much as we thought we could.
What Woman Can Do In Certain Situations
Focus On Threat Indicators – One thing that all of us women should do is focus on threat indicators. These include asking questions of why a person is so unquestionably nice. Why the crowd is too silent. Why everyone seems uncomfortable. And why everything feels so awkward. A simple thought of these things can make a difference in the way we look at our surroundings. Who knows? We might find interesting facts on how dangerous a situation is at some point. “Knowing when and how to counterattack can make the difference between rape and escape in the first few seconds of an assault,” says Pamela King, Marriage & Family Therapist.
Increase Situational Awareness – When we say increasing situational awareness, it does mean we have to feel entitled for having assistance. It means we need to pay attention even to the smallest details of the situation where we think something is wrong. For us, women, we have to learn how to retain specific memories that we know helpful in patching stories up. We might never know when names and birthmarks will become useful for future use. We have to be keen on gathering essential details. According to Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, “Awareness is the first step. You may need help to see things clearly. Write out conversations and try to identify abuse and all the tactics used.”
Overcoming Fear – One thing that holds us in keeping ourselves safe all the time is fear. Yes, it is women’s nature to feel anxious quickly and scared at some unfavorable conditions. But it does not have to be like that. We must learn to overcome our fear so we can take appropriate actions in a matter of time. We need to become more confident in our emotional, physical, and mental strength. It will become the key to stop people from hurting us.
Women are born vulnerable. But it does not mean we cannot do anything about it. If we focus on keeping ourselves safe, we can make it happen. There are lots of ways that can help us in our goal. We only have to avoid thinking that the world is safe and not harmful. Because the truth is, the humankind is worse than we could ever imagine. “I think that all women need training in self-protection, be it model mugging, martial arts, shooting or guard dogs, because violence against women is a real and present danger, and it will never go away,” said psychiatrist Judith Eve Lipton M.D.